No big deal

Lately, it has become easier for both Jae and me to come right out and act as if it's really no big deal at all. Anyway, it shouldn't be a big deal - this is the 21st century and gay marriage is legal over here. But most of the time, we hem and haw and mumble about our "partners", "spouses" and the like, in a very neutral way.

Well, not any more! Last week I worked with an unknown person (from another shift) and of course, we chatted a bit while working. I mentioned something about my spouse and she asked if "my husband" worked at the same firm. I said: "My wife - and yes, she works in the IT department." Jae had a similar incident with a rather close co-worker (but one with whom she hasn't chatted a lot).

Afterwards, we compared notes and came to the same conclusion: it gets easier over time... and if you don't make a big deal out of coming out, no-one else will, either. At least not to your face, if they're polite.